Bergen County Blogs
- Category: Member Blogs
- Published on Monday, 10 January 2011 11:48
Exciting and new ~ come aboard we’re expecting you!
Where is Julie the cruise ship director when you need her!!
We are indeed living in some whacked out times. The economy, da weather, so high tech that I can google earth your ass and find out where are.
Yet the oldest thing in the world is still the hardest - L O V E …
I have a friend ( whom shall remain nameless ) that is always in some kind of drama or in flux.
The people she meets all lie. Now come on peeps, why would you put up a photo of you that was taken 10 years ago? This includes da Women too!
What happens when someone wants to meet cha?
Why lie and pretend you are not married?
Oh I see, you wanna get a little !!! Minga….
What happened to that magic moment when you meet someone across a crowed room and fall deeply in love. I’ll tell ya what happened! The room’s aint that crowded any more and the room was replaced by your computer. Ahhhhhh High-Tech love… Skype me Baby….
Now look I am a huge fan of the Internet and all it has to offer. I even met my Honey on da net. However at some point when you finally get dat Face to Face with your potential new lover all of a sudden da thrill is gone?
Your imagination and the fantasy of it all can be so intoxicating that you are lead into a drug induced feeling of Loveness. But da face to face snaps your ass right out of it and you then find yourself on dat roller coaster doing a downward spiral. You’re sayin – do I meet the height requirement for this ride?
At times my friends have even said, well yeah I met him and I did not have that – ahhhhhhhh connection but I think I need to give it a little time. Before ya know it, da holidays are coming and you think well – I’m just gonna give it a little more time. WHY!!
Sometimes the holidays came make you do some dumb things! Like stay with someone you met at Halloween just because the season is on the way.
Lying - restraining orders – Oh My ~~~ and so it goes !!!
Whether you are the Hunter or the Huntress, Da Goombah or da Gomada -speak the truth! Dare to be different.
Meeting people is hard enough. Let alone going on the quest to find the love of your life.
If you’re lucky you can see through al the shit by the 2nd date. Sometimes it takes 6 months before you can see through the shit.
Stats prove that people can change their behavior for 6 months then after that they will go back to who they really are.. When someone shows you their true colors the first time, believe them. It is truly what it is.
We all have enough drama do we really need someone else’s? And don’t fall into that “ I don’t wana be alone BS!” Because after 6 months when u are having morning coffee and you look at the Mook across the table you will wanna beat your own ass with a stick..
Here is the road map of what to look for….
Someone who is present!
Someone that can give you love, mutual respect and who is considerate.
Someone that supports who and what you are.
Someone that knows a relationship means compromise and finding the middle of the road.
Someone you don’t settle for.
Someone you don’t have to fix or change, cuz guess what? Ya Can’t!
Now that you have a lot to bring to the table and that you deserve to feel all that passion and fire.
Look for understanding instead of miscommunication and frustration. Instead of friction and competition have mutual support and cooperation.
Continue to keep your heart open and hold on to an optimistic view of the future.
“For true partnership is achieved only by separate and whole beings who retain their separateness even as the unite. Remember to let the winds of Heaven dance between you”! So says the Rune of partnership.
Get back what you give and give what you get back. All that just to say balance and respect.
Once you have all that, the Passion, romance and spontaneity go hand and hand.
So promise yourself that you will no longer fool yourself with your own enchantment and expectation but be more vigilant in your quest.
Now isn’t that RomanticJ
So hang on to your Hat’s kid cause Valentine’s Day is right around da corner. Ahhhhh da pressure of it all… Your crew asks you~ you gotta date?
You think OMG what if I am alone on Valentines Day!!
Look the last thing you want to do is settle for da Mook who asks ya out and then have that tortured decision to make!
Ok if he buys me a really nice gift do I haf’ta BANG him?