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Lately I think the Moon & Stars are all out of whack! So many friends have been sharing with me their relationships issues or saga’s or patterns.

What the hell is wrong with people? Look if ya wanna get laid just say so. But don’t do the relationship dance and then 3 months later turn into Da Mook you always were.


A friend told me after a year into her relationship they were talking about their future, marriage. Then he tells her I am not sure I want to get married. I was married before and I don’t like being told what to do and when I can do it!  Hummmm. So she says, so what does that mean for us?

He says, well we can still be together, I have friends that live separately in other parts of the world and are married.

Really she says, they why have I never met them?

Look its pretty clear that this Mook wants you when he wants you and dats, Dat !

Intimacy issues – Run Forest run !~~~


Then I meet one of my niece’s new Boy toys at one of my shows. The second I met him I knew something wasn’t right! It was like I saw a hat on his head that said “someum aint right!”. We say hello, she says Nada, then she says, he looks kinda Guido like, huh! I looked at him and said yea, you do but I will reserve what I really feel about you after 2 months.. Thank God I did not have to have that conversation, he is already dust!


Then another friend was telling me about her bi-polar and manic Honey. Two days off and 4 days on. That’s like datin a Mormon. Why, why , why !! DO YOU REALLY NEED THIS!

You’re a fun person, spontaneous and loving – do u need a bat to make u see this!

Look if the meds aint workin and the Shrink aint helping – RUNNNNNNNNNNNN, Now.


Why do we do this? We do this for -Connection! Love, Romance and the need to partner.

Some peeps are lucky, they get it right!! God Bless.

But some peeps keep choosing the wrong people and that just plain sucks!

They don’t do it on purpose it just happens or perhaps we believe so much in romance that we think we can make it happen.

Alfred Lord Tennyson said, “Tis better to have loved and lost. 
Than never to have loved at all.”

This I believe to be true! I keep telling my friends to chant this so that they do not get tainted or bitter, ewwwww there is nothing worse than bitter.

I know when you are a believer it is hard to let go but there comes a point where you just have to.

I know, how many more lessons are there to learn.!

Hey, don’t ask me I sucked in school!

All I know is that you need to Love you, let go and move forward. I believe there is a reason for everything and a reason to believe.

I am going to share with you not only a little secret but a statistic as well. If you wanna give yourself 6 months with Jimmy 2 times, fine! HOWEVER, here be da Stats – When it comes to behavior peeps can do anything for 6 months after that they will turn into the friggin Mook they always were and then you are trapped because u let go and let love in. The short of this is you are now screwed across the board.

So hold back a tad and watch and observe because when someone shows you their true colors the first time, believe them- cuz that what they are.

So trust your instincts and if they really suck, just get laid and go home!

But trust me – it will come when you least expect it!

Worse case marry da Mook if he has money then find a boy toy and then 2 years later, DIVORSE HIS ASS!